When you are happy and you know it..Clap your hands!
When I first joined Athena School of Management as a lecturer, I was told to maintain a to-do list for each day. That started as a chore and now it has become a habit of sorts which I am glad I cultivated as it added to my productivity.
Here are some tips for all of you. These tips have helped me sail through some frustrating and demanding situations in life.
1) Deep breathe: Breathing is a very basic, involuntary activity that all of us do. But how many of us breathe deeply? Breathe deeply and in an instant you will feel relaxed.
2) Make a to-do list: Making a to-do list is something which many of us should put on their to-do list! It is an activity where listing down the most urgent things and then checking each one off as you complete them is often something which would take the load off your mind and shoulders and you will be surprised to see how much you have achieved.
3) One thing at a time: All of us are in a hurry. As we are doing one thing, our mind wanders onto the next task and we leave the current task mid-way to move on to the next, leaving it incomplete to move on the subsequent task and so on. This leads to frustration and unhappiness. Instead, focus on completing the current task in hand – give your full attention. You need not check that sms or email just the very instant that it pops up in your cell phone. Remember, if a task is important, it is important enough to be done without any disruptions or distractions.
4) No blame-game: Consciously try not to blame others, especially for things which you could have also controlled. Vendors don’t deliver on time. Customers’ preferences suddenly change. Your work profile you find is different from what you had bargained for. Your juniors are not giving you the results that you want. In such situations, it is easy to blame others. But come to think of it. In all these situations, apart from the other party, you are present too in the scenario. And more often than not you expect too much too soon, did not give clear directions, did not detect the latent discontent or misjudgment which led to the situation in the first place.
5) No interrupting others: In many cultures, interrupting a person is considered rude. And rightly so. Interrupting a person is actually a sign that ‘look, am not listening to you and so I will say want I want to, anyway, without wasting much time.’ If you want to come across as amiable, listen to people. And as a bonus you will find people listening to you too!